Teaching Kids to Tame the Tongue

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This week, my middle-school children faced some disturbing news about one of the adults in their life.  It involved a teacher, and the news came via a recorded phone call from the principal about an hour after school. Within moments, literally, the news went viral on any and all social networks.  (And it amazes me how many there are—far more than just Facebook and Instagram.) The school kids had not only forwarded the letter posted by the principal on the school’s website, but tidbits had been added to that as well as to the articles that had already popped up on the local news stations. Even former students now in high school had gotten in on it.

Over dinner we had a discussion about not spreading gossip. What if he’s innocent? Do you really want to add your words to the hurt he’s experiencing? Countless lives have been not only damaged but often destroyed by careless words. Even when true, words can be powerful and dangerous.

Even though everything my kids say might be already printed in the newspaper or the principal’s letter, I want them to understand the danger of repeating information about other people when they are not directly involved. I want to break a habit before it starts. The story might be possibly true this time, but what about next time? Then, it could just be someone’s malicious gossip they’re spreading.

Paul lists gossips with murderers and God-haters. Proverbs warns us gossip betrays a confidence, stirs up dissension and separates close friends. On the other hand, those who guard their tongue keep themselves from calamity.

That’s a difficult concept for twelve-year-olds to grasp. It can be hard for adults to get a handle on. But it is necessary, somehow, for me to get the message across. So, if you would, pray with me these next few weeks. I’d love your prayers. And if you have any advice, I’ll take that, too.